The most interesting scenario we had occured when our oldest wanted to play Little League Baseball. After tryouts, the league was formed, there were about 14 or so kids "left over"after seven teams were formed, but get this each team had only MINIMUM number of players allowed under LL rules. The parents of the left out kids went to the league. We had found an experience, enthusiastic coach and asked to form another team. They refused.
It was obvious that the existing coaches didn't care about the kids, they wanted to win. As LL requires that every player play, That wanted only the minimum number of the best kids, with a pool of replacement players in the event one of their chosen kids dropped out.
I was furious. Did some research. There had actually been a book published about the LL and parents. It described the attitudes of the those coaches to a T,
In that kind of situation, the adults are living vicariously through the kids, reliving their youth. It's not that they want the kids to win, it is that they want to win.
For the kids, of course it is more fun winning. But it is also more fun playing than sitting on the bench.
Not all youth sports coaches are like that, but you have to watch out for that over age has been who is using your kid the regain his glory days.
