WOW, where do I even Begin here with both of these topics in one thread; and no not the DNS blocking one, Attitude and the Sports Culture added in... BTW, everything I write has spelling and grammer issues and a 1,000 "Danoso's" (NCIS, Smacks upside the head) to the first grammer or spelling cop who jumps my case over it... I have dyslexia and ADD so I need to be "Accomidated"... :-)
Anyway, its interesting here with a broader spread of docs but when I tried to "Bitch" even the least bit about all the attitude we used and at times still do get around here over at the IMP chats I would get my bones jump for not being patient centered enough, and perhaps we are not allowing them to get all of their needs met in one visit and the like. I'm all for attempting to take good care of people and really being their first stop, most trusted, feels comfortable turning to us when times get tough Primary Care office, but at times it really is about the PATIENT and what kind of baggage they bring with them way before they ever darkened our waiting rooms.
Now here in Central NY, Syracuse I usually related this to a good part of Homie, Hood and NYC attitudes rubbing off be it from downtown 'Cuse, the general negative social crap that comes with mainly Basketball and Football, again more inner city and hood like... But it is interesting watching it take over in so many places that are fairly rural or at least modest Suburban. And at the same time right here we have a NYC doc reporting that she does not get a heck of a lot of negative attitude right there where I grew up too, Downstate (Da Bronx, another haven of Normalcy, NOT) and I think that actually says something about it too...
I see so many suburban kids most White but some of the others too, all attempting to act way more "Hood" like, the clothes, the walk, the chains and Tats too than they really ever were or are.... I know right now if I took the majority of these kids and plopped their butts down unannounced (Scotty are you ready with the transporter?) in the middle of 161 St. way late at night on a non-Yankee night, with all the creeps floating in and out of Night Court no less the regulars who live down there, these kids would Pee all over themselves and would be lucky to last til the morning light... And yet they are all messed up and acting and adopting a culture that really is not theirs as though it means something and is valid... When in actuality the only folks it really is valid for are those kids, growing up under the worst of conditions, rats and poverty, messed up parents and the like and all the other problems that plauge and real inner city kid fighting, really fighting for daily survival.
And the funny thing is those that are really from "The City" are like naturally raised preditors who even the Mountain Lion or the Bear, African Lions and Tigers, Nobody "Starts $H!T who doesn't really have to start it"... Because they know, 1) there is always someone out there crazier or has a more lethcal weapon or skills 2) even if you win you could lose and walk away wounded enough that you won't make it.... So much of it really is posturing even in the wild. And last, those that know that they are pretty fast, skilled, have a bad@$$ weapon, or are near the top of the food chain, don't feel compelled to prove it all the time and again they understand the first two parts to begin with, that when combined it makes sense that sometimes being Cool is the largest sign of superiority of all... You know you've got it if and when you need to, have to show it.
I think that so much of the Showboating and other "I'm the Biggest and the Baddest" that is exploited and over done, repeated over and over again on the likes of ESPN and Fox and all the rest is one of the main reasons that kids grow up so rude and self centered and it is just another great reason why I continue to prefer having my kids exposed to the culture of Ice Hockey where all of the guys give modest, humble and or confident, almost rehearshed since college and juniors answers that are respectful of themselves and their opponents. It is the very rare occation where hockey players or teams get into pissing matches in the media digging into one another and creating what we refer to as: "Bulletin Board" material and moments... The headlines and clippings that the other team and coaches are going to post, tape up in the locker room to work a little bit of extra intensity and anger into their guys to motivate them that much more.... Hockey Players don't skate away after every check or hit, regardless of how hard or how much the other guy had his head down and got his clock cleaned out, and ShowBoat it up for the entire rink be it at home or on the road... Yes their have been a few but most of those eventually seem to get weeded out as it is just not part of our "external" public face for the rink and audience... I'm sure when its just the guys some smack or garbage is spoken and exchanged but that is just "What is said in the Locker Room Stays in the Locker Room". See the movie "Mystery Alaska" for the punishment of breaking such codes and protocol.... Hysterical. Yes we do challege one another and at times their is some trash talk, but it is actually illegal at the youth levels if it gets too out of hand with large game misconducts, Majors to be served with them and even our worst a Match Penalty. Both a game or a match comes with an automatic Game Suspension for at least the following game too. Racial and Ethnic slurs, Cursing and the like are not taken kindly and if heard and can be traced to a specific player, that guy or gal is in a heck of a lot of trouble, and hot water with their coach most probably too.
Lastly on a similar concept here I wonder if these these things are influence at least shorter tempers and self entitlment the idea of much more availability of all sorts of media which tends to distort and show not so Normal behaviors and attitudes.... We now have "artists" who do things simply because to some extent it has all been done for the most part especially when we are talking about wardrobes and choices of acting and behaving on stage... You've got to top that last person who dressed in florescent panties with pasties or every other word was F this and F that.... Iggie Pop jumping into broken glass chest first was like 30 years ago already. I look at like Lady GaGa and I just want to laugh go Gag Gag regardless of the fact that she might actually have a voice worth listening to. And again this is the Mass Media, Time Warner, Disney, Murdock Media days now...
Where as again some of us raised our kids on Good Music and Rock and Good Theater and decent movies and YES as suggested here, we were one of the last families to finally get a game box and it was WII based not X-Box very intentionally for the milder content and more active interface at the time of purchase a few years ago... And our kids were some of the last to get DS's and we watch which games the get for either. We watch what they do on-line which for the most part they have reasonable taste for the most part anyway. My son is looking for Planes and Titanic stuff including Cool self splitting and sinking models, Pet Snakes eating the prey and our daughter mainly watches listens to music videos of semi-reasonable if not even very good stuff (and yes she listens to modern stuff, not our stuff for the most part) She Loves Evanescance which even I like Banging my head to half the time, with the hard crunchy guitar lines and her lyrics actually Mean Something about life and it experiences....
It's not easy but it can be and should be, must be done.... now granted how much of their basic tastes and likes are semi-hard wired seeing who their creative and and least half intelligent parents are.... We are a hockey family we are a creative arts music family and we are a family with some amount of modern classic culture for the theater, movies, music, sciences and mechanical things and love of animals and nature without being completely over the top about it all either.... Fishing Jeeping, hiking, science and nature centers...
I also think that Technology itself has changed a lot of us and changed our expectations... Everything is just "There"!!! Want to know about this or look up that schedule or map or instructions, simply do a few mouse or stillus clicks and points and BOOM, there it is, there you are... That kind of immediate, instant gratification and constant "Something" always happening or always ON, has got to shape your neural connections and pathways no less your actual perceptions of time, no less your Expectations of having what you want or think you need, at your finger tips all the time, anytime almost no matter where you are... The internet and all its connections are in the woods or at the fishing hole with you as much as they are in our ultra connected homes.... Want a new movie for tonight or an old re-run, boom there it is....
And so when life and reality can not keep up with this new learned set of expectations those that perform services and actually do "Things" like repair cars, HVAC, build things with our hands, Heal the Sick or Injuried the bar has been set by the rest of our culture way too high for what the reality of the situation can hold or give, produce... Not every repair can happen today or in an hour or two, not all parts are immediately available and not all disease states can be controlled, modified, cured and there is not always a "Pill" one can take to simply make the problem go away.... Much like what happened and is happening in my old industry of performing arts in both the theater as well as in movies too. The more theater Magic and the more special effects and CG in the last couple of movies, the next Science Fiction movie that depicts space travel or aliens better, more extreme or more realistic well than that is the new bar and the new expectation to at least match if not even beat it, top it.
I'll quit here but I want to tell you all about the Best season my son and I shared and all the wild and crazy @$$hole parents doing some of the worst cr@p I have ever seen and yet how it can all go so well, if and when a few good people all come together and refuse to allow those low lifes to ruin it for everyone else and we hold our kids to obtainable standards of good sportsmanship and behavior, team unity and spirit, work together as coaches and teammates, and not allow ourselves or our kids to become negative and start the downward spiral that comes with it.... It was tough and at times extremely challenging and it was hard to really believe that there was light at the end of the tunnel... But we all bought into it, parents and players, and the entire coaching staff too.... and boy what a great last two months and finish. The season nobody wanted to have end or finish. A season that left you almost in widthdrawal and slightly depressed after having such a ride and having it disappear almost a fast as a great hard shot and one of my son's great glove saves and a whistle for a face-off.... And so much of it is owed to this one very nice, great man with high expectations of good attitude and character building leads to good players, good teams and great things that can happen. In all honesty, I think he and the kids even suprised himself...
Gotta split and get out of here already... Have a great night...
Paul
