Amazing the amount of sexism against men and racism. I had a male nurse for a while who happened to be black. One woman left our practice with her kids because of it. Apparently people don't like male receptionists and often no male restaurant servers can make enough tips to survive.
Boondoc,
I know you know this, but you really don't want her in the practice anyway. As far as restaurant servers, it isn't so much a sexist thing as it is a beauty thing. Guys just are more likely to go to a restaurant with cute waitresses. Owners of restaurants can only hire so many waitresses.
Now where it seems to be sexist is in the entertainment recording industry. I would say a female artist tends to be on the more attractice side, where it doesn't seem to matter at all with males, i.e. Meatloaf, Bob Dylan, etc.
But, the woman you are describing is dead to rights racist. I feel bad for her kids. I wonder what she tells them about our president.